Everyone who contributes in the Joelay tag is just perfect and beautiful.
I’m so serious, If you are in a bad relationship, whether its a romantic one or a friendship, LEAVE. If you are bending over backwards to please someone at the cost of your emotional well-being and sense of self-worth, hoping that it will make things better IT IS NOT WORTH IT.
Don’t keep it to yourself, tell your loved ones and ask for support because an abusive relationship is almost impossible to escape on your own. It does not make you weak and it is not your fault for “putting yourself in that situation”. NOTHING you did makes you deserve to be emotionally or physically abused by someone you gave your love and trust to.
There are monsters on this earth who masquerade as people. They only seek gratification for themselves no matter what the cost. They have a lifetime’s worth of problems and never learned to deal with it in any healthy way, choosing instead to inflict that pain on others. They thrive off people who are caring and compassionate and forgiving. They latch on to those people and will drain them of absolutely everything until their victims have lost their sense of safety, their autonomy and respect for themselves. These monsters will make the victims feel bad for them and make it seem like its their own fault and if they just complied more to their whims, things will get better.
These monsters are not easy to detect. Sometimes they are interesting people and they’re not outwardly mean or selfish. Very often they don’t treat other people the way they treat their victims. Often they don’t realize that what they are doing is wrong and evil because their perception of reality is warped beyond recognition. Usually abusive relationships start out like normal healthy relationships and when things go south the victim wont realize it until its too late. The perpetrator may genuinely love the other person, but they will start using the other person’s love as a weapon, as a tool to get exactly what they want. People trapped in abusive relationships will often not leave because they still care for the monster that hurts them. Its not because they are stupid or desperate. The victim often becomes completely used to the pain and abuse and grow apathetic in order to cope without going insane. When they grow apathetic, they accept the pain as a part of normal life and don’t think anymore about escaping.
If your friend is brave enough to come to you and talk about being abused, never blame the victim. They have become a pawn in someone else’s sick game, taught to think that this kind of abuse is normal and that its not a real “problem”. If they don’t want to call the police, don’t. Just listen to them and tell them that they don’t need this asshole in their lives and that they do deserve better. Tell them that you will always be there for them. They think they are weak and stupid and that they brought this upon themselves; they are full of guilt and shame. You need to tell them there is nothing to be ashamed of and that they are not weak. Tell them it is hard for anyone to move on by themselves and that they need loved ones to support them along the way, because everyone does.
This has been a public announcement on abusive relationships and how you, as a friend, can help.
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I CAN’T BREATHE
GAVIN FREE TAG, Y’ALL SPOILED THE NEW LETS PLAY FOR ME!!!
As long as I can’t watch an episode of a popular sitcom without having to sit through multiple sexist comments or “jokes”, I am a feminist.
As long as women have to face the rational fear of being sexually assaulted every time they walk home past dark while men don’t, I am a feminist.
As long as misogyny exists in any country in this world, I am a feminist.
As long as women are being raped, then stoned to death or forced to marry their rapist, I am a feminist.
As long as companies promote men to manager when there are women who are equally as or better qualified, because they find that men look more authoritative, I am a feminist.
As long as women (her choice of clothes, her friendly nature, her weakness, her choice to drink alcohol) get blamed when men rape them, I am a feminist.
As long women’s opinions on online social networks are dismissed with phrases like “tits or gtfo”, “get back to the kitchen”, “are you pms’ing?”, I am a feminist.
As long as dressing like a women is degrading for men and as long as men are insulted with phrases like “you throw like a woman”, clearly implying that being like a woman is shameful, I am a feminist.
As long as both men are women are expected to work, but taking care of children and the household are still largely considered a woman’s job, I am a feminist.
As long as boys and girls are treated differently, expected to act differently, and surrounded by different toys and colours from the day they are born, I am a feminist.
As long as topless women aren’t allowed in public unless they’re on the cover of a men’s magazine, I am a feminist.
As long as women who have sex frequently are generally told they are “sluts”, “lacking self-respect” and “lacking morals” by both men and women, while men who frequently have sex are “just being men” and it’s “natural for them”, I am a feminist.
As long as there are places where women have to pay more for health insurance than men, I am a feminist.
As long as men experience situations with equal gender representation as female-dominated, and don’t consider a group discussion equal unless there are significantly more men then women participants (as has been proven), I am a feminist.
As long as there are men who think it’s their wife or girlfriend’s duty to have sex with him whenever he wants, I am a feminist.
As long as the word feminism (“the movement aimed at equal rights for women”) has a negative connotation, I am a feminist.
As long as misogynist people exist, I am a feminist."
I just wanna add that no matter what, as long as I believe that woman deserve to be treated the same as men in all facets of society, I am feminist.
Recently started stalking the zukka tag after rewatching ATLA, and I have found plenty of wonderful fic but I’m itching for a massive epic fic. that is hopefully finished (I love Amber, but it hasn’t been updated for a while.)
So can I please have some fic recs sent my way?
If you post fanfiction PLEASE put the text under a “read more” break, otherwise you’re unnecessarily clogging the Nivanfield tag. Please and thank you.